Sunday, January 30, 2011


A kind reader just commented on this post "Um. Dude. You may have not got the memo but DADT was repealed a month ago. Now all that is required is the plan to implement it which is well underway". Bro now I have something to say to you. I know that the bill repealing "don't ask, don't tell," passed the Senate 65 to 31 in December 2010. But that change in law does not change the policy. After a 60-day review by Congress, the Pentagon will then develop procedures for ending it altogether, a process that could take months or years to complete. "Months or years", so bro now tell me how effective this so called repeal that you believe in has been? I understand the first step has been taken and thats great, but if actual implementation and change takes months or years than what was the repeal about? Its almost like saying "you bought your favorite book, but wait, you cant read it yet, you gotta wait for a few months or years to start reading it". And that is the point I am trying to make. There is no time for months or years, the time for complete change is NOW. As we saw with the Prop 8 in California, they could change their mind in a second. So ya, since the repeal has happened already, it should be put in effect NOW and implemented NOW. Not in months or years. I hope that helps your curiosity.

So its DADT eh? Dont Ask, Dont Tell huh? Great job, no seriously thataboy and good job for taking away the rights of the same people that risk their lives for the country and the safety of people. For that I am proud of you. Whos YOU? YOU are all the people who decided to keep enforcing DADT, YOU's are the same people that decided to treat heroes like second class citizens. Segregation is abolished in the NEW WORLD you say, I say bullshit, horse crap, donkey balls to that. Segragation is alive and well, healthy and kicking with reignited energy that seperates people by their sexuality. I say why the leniency and just give the homosexuals the privilege of this segregation, lets spread it, I think people who prefer certain sexual positions over others among the heterosexual troops should be segregated too, so the ones that like missionary should not tell anyone, and the ones that like 69ing should not be asked about their preference cos that could jeopardise their choice to serve the country and make them lesser of heroes. Enough of this bullshit. I hope you know I was kidding, cos it sickens me and Im embarassed that DADT is still in effect and still affecting people who serve this country.

Coming out as a gay man/woman is hard enough. So why add more torture such as DADT over it. These soldiers are firstly citizens and its been hard enough for them to come out, and the DADT just makes it more difficult. The worst part is that the soldiers that want to come out or have already come out and been accepted, are forced to go back into the closet and are muffled by the straight jacket that the army strangles them with. I am saddened by the fact that the rights that are available to the civilians (well theres still room for a lot more improvement in that area too) are not given to the heroes that serve the country. I am disgusted by the fact that there are still people who would silence the voices and hearts of the soldiers that want the same treatment as the rest of the soldiers. Its weird that the same people that are fighting for your freedom do not have the freedom to love who they choose to, or ok YOU might say they have the freedom to do so, but then they are not allowed to talk about it or show it openly and that, YOU should know, is no FREEDOM.

Its a common thing among soldiers to have a photo of their loved one (girlfriend, wife) in their locker or under their pillow, but the soldiers who are gay are not allowed that basic freedom and human emotion. The courage of the loved ones of the soldiers who are gay is the same as the courage of the loved ones of the soldiers who are straight, they cry the same amount of tears, they hurt just as much and they find the same amount of strength to send their loved ones to serve the country. But when a soldier who is gay dies or is deployed, the partners of those soldiers are not given the same amount of support or respect as the partners of those soldiers who are straight. What do YOU say to that?

A Statue in Russia

General Pace calls homosexuality immoral hence he thinks DADT should continue to be enforced. Pretty sure having sex outside of marriage or having an extra marital affair is immoral too, so Pace should throw out every heterosexual sailor who is treated for a venereal disease after coming back from port call.

Please repeal DADT and please abolish DADT. Give all the soldiers and people equal rights.

Here are some more articles to read on the issue. The first one is a touching letter from a soldier, please read.

Once again, thank you to everyone who have been donating. Someone emailed me asking why I am asking to donate, please follow the link to find out why here. A 14 year old boy emailed me telling me he liked my posts and articles so he would like to donate ten dollars, but I told him I wont accept the money from him, I wont feel good taking money from a little kid who is the same age as my little brother. I appreciate the offer. I told him that he has a friend in me and he can email me whenever he wants advice and help. So thanks kid and hope to hear from you soon.

Sunday, January 16, 2011

Dude needs advice - this chick invites me to Vegas with her

Boys so The Dude needs your advice.
Backstory: Abt three years ago, I met this chick in college. Gorgeous, skinny, blonde, blue-eyed, hot. But not much boobs going on. Well I met her and she made it very clear that she was into me. I dint like her that much, she was hot but I thought she was ok. I just blew her off. Then she started dating a very good friend of mine. I was happy for her. And him. But even after they started dating, she kept on flirting with me and was still kinda into me. That was a turn off cos infidelity is unattractive, and also I wud not hurt my buddy. I blew her away again. Then her best friend also blonde blue eyed nice ass told me she had a crush on me, had feelings for me and wanted to be with me. This girl was a tigress, she was forceful abt her feelings even before we had spoken to each other she would do these long stares at me and would not stop looking at me and she was not subtle, then I wud respond by looking at her and she would flutter her eyelashes n look away. She was good lol even my gay dick would twitch. I did nothing abt it n just ignored her. Then one day I was getting out of class, she got out at the same time too, we were in the same class including the previous chick I was talking abt, well we were going out of class, I start walking down the corridor, I turn around and guess what she's doing? She's standing by the door looking at me, n not just looking, but glaring longingly, she was doing one of those "tilt your chin towards ur chest, while looking at the person, making ur eyes look sexy n have the lustful look" ya that look. I looked for a while then looked away n just kept walking. I kinda liked her. And the side of me that wants to cover up my sexuality, liked her too. By the time we started talking, she was seeing this dude, but that dint stop her from flirting either. It was nearly time for winter break, so I thought I wud try something with her the next semester, but by the time we got back both of us had already gone out of steam, although we flirted. So getting back to the previous girl, she broke up with my buddy two semesters ago. Iwhen they broke up, I knew before anyone even told me cos the heavy flirtatiousness had begun again. And I knew something was up, then I found out they had broken up. I would see her at parties sometimes and even though she wud be dancing with other guys, she wud start talking to me. And the thing with her is that she is kinda quiet n doesn't say much to neone n kinda boring, but still very popular. But wheneve she sees me, she tries really hard to make conversation, so I know that she really likes me. When I need someone to be there, she always is. So I feel the love. Then she started seeing this dude, funnily enough it was the same dude that told me he liked me n I liked him too. It was a funny twist cos when I wud see them somewhere, i would see him staring at me n around the same time she wud be staring too. Then she wud start talking to me n he and I wud be awkward. lol it was very funny. They are just friends now. Well getting back to her again well we met at the final party before going home for Christmas. I was shitfaced n having a great time. Then she came up to me n started talking to me, then she asked me if I wud come to Vegas with her for her birthday next semester, I said ya sure and she got really happy n then I asked her if she had my number, she did but it was the old one so, I gave her my new number. I was hammered that night, tried making out with everyone, danced on tables, spilled drink on these chicks, n apparently instead of getting mad at me they asked my friends if I was ok n if I was mad at them.

I texted her that day cos I remembered the invite and asked if it was still on. She said yes n I told her Im coming so she got really happy.

See I know what she wants. She either wants to be in a relationship with me or just wants to do me. There's a part of me that wants to go. But then she is also my buddy's ex girlfriend and I don't want to hurt our friendship. My buddy n me were talking abt chicks one day n he started talking abt her, I joked abt our friends dating her, n he said if I want to date her or be in a relationship with her then I should, i told him I wasn't going to do that, then he warned me that she's crazy. I cant betray my buddy or hurt him like that. Then theres the part of me that wants to go just to have fun. I stopped having sex with chicks just to cover up long time back so I dont know if I can get it up or even do it with a chick nemore, maybe I should get some viagra or cialis? Anyone know where from? lol. another part of me that want to "cover up" wants to go too.

So what should I do dude?

Friday, January 14, 2011

The Air Force Pilot Who Wanted To Fly Me Away

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I have another story for all my bros. Yes, and this one involves an Air Force Pilot. An Air Force Pilot on a secret mission at that. Lets not wait too long for me to tell you the story.

A few years ago when I was about 18 I was travelling across Europe with my family: Mom, Dad, Brother, Sister and relatives. We had spent a few days in one country and were heading to a city in a different country. We had decided to take the train which was going to take us 3 days and 2 nights to get there. So kind of a long trip and we were all very excited. All of us boarded the train, and it being a long trip, my parents had gotten us a cabin on the train. The train had different class levels and we were on the business class version of the train, so we had a cabin with doors on it. I took the top bed cos I wanted to be able to look at everyone. It had a huge window too but it dint open. There was one empty bed and it was already booked by someone and we did not know when that seat/bed would get occupied. So all of get settled and got ready for the adventure. The train started on the journey and I just looked on as we passed the station and then were our journey.

My brother was listening to his music, my sister was reading a book, my dad was reading the newspaper, and mum was playing cards with a family friend. My relatives and family friends had other cabins in the business class section. So it had been a few hours and we stopped at another station, I guess for people to get on/off. After a while I hear our cabin door open and this man gets in. I guess we meet the person who had booked the empty seat on our cabin. He gets angry for some reason and I look at what was going and he is asking my mom and our family friend to get off his seat and stop playing cards. Yes, they were playing cards on his seat so I guess he wanted to get his seat back but why was he mad about the cards? I was going to say something cos it pissed me off that he was mad at my mom and friends but I decided to keep quiet cos I thought maybe it was illegal to play cards in that country, who knows what the rules are in those countries are. And seeing that we were going to be sharing the cabin with the jerk for a few days, I decided to just say nothing and keep it civil.

A few hours went by, and everyone was talking to each other and we were having a conversation with the stranger too. The stranger seemed pretty nice and I am going to him a name, Aaron. Well Aaron and his friends were from different states, Aaron was from Arkansas, and they were headed to the same city as us and was on the trip with a few friends who were all scatted in different areas of the train, I found that a bit strange but decided to not question anything. It was dusk and the sun reflected beautifully into our cabin. We were all playing games and our cabin was full of people and the noise of the train gushing through the sunset was silenced by our laughters and voices. Aaron was talking to everyone and I could tell he was kind of a flirt. That put me in protective brother mode cos my sister was young around then and I was going to let this random guy start hitting on her. But my sister just kept to herself and continued to read her book.

We all just sat around and talked. Aaron was talking to me about all kinds of stuff and I was telling him about things. He was flirting with me and I just laughed lol. He was ok looking but he was not my type. But he was extremely manly and had a great personality and it was the extremely masculine side which made him attractive. If you guys watch Brothers and Sisters - think Justin, it was that kinda look, they dont look alike at all but I mean that kinda look and

So we were just conversating about lots of stuff and we were talking about each others lives. He was in his mid to late twenties but I had no clue about his sexuality. Everyone had lunch together and my parents would buy snacks for everyone including Aaron and his friends. His friends would just come over at certain times, hang out and then went back to their seats. Me and my brother were just kidding around and taking photos, I wanted to look at the camera so I took it away from his hands and was looking through them. Aaron was sitting next to me and looking at the photos too and suddenly one photo was of my lower back with my shirt raised and top of my boxers and lower back showing and Aaron just said "Oooooh", I just laughed, blushed and deleted the photo. Night happened and I had no clue what part of Europe I was in by now. So I went to sleep and woke up early the next morning. I dint know how I was going to get used to the shaking train. Breakfast was served and after freshening up we all sat around talking.

Then when we would pass by different cities and if the train stopped at any station, Aaron and I would go and stand in the door and just look out. At times we just walked around the train looking at the various compartments, at other times we all played games and told jokes to entertain ourselves. Aaron would just look at me at certain times and smile. Sometimes he would say something to me and smile. Everyone could see that Aaron and I had gotten very close and had become good friends. If I sat somewhere, Aaron would come sit next to me, if I wanted to go to the other compartment and look around, Aaron would come with. Our cabin was always full of people cos our family and relatives and friends would come and sit in ours and Aaron's friends would come too. We would just sit around talking, lauhging, eating, joking and other things. We got to a certain station around sunset and Aaron asked me if I would want to go look around this station while the train stopped for a few minutes. I said yes, but before we got off the train, Aaron asked my mom "Ma'am is it ok if I take Pritan with me, we wanna go look around the station, we will back in a few minutes?" My mom allowed us to cos they thought Aaron was a good person and trusted him and I was also 18, although we were in a foreing country. We walked for a while around the platform and there were lots of people there. Then Aaron stopped walking and looked at me and told me he wanted to say something me. I asked him what it was and he started telling. He told me that I would have to keep it a secret, and then said that he was a pilot/officer in the air force and they were going somewhere on a secret mission thats why he did not tell us what his career was earlier. And he told me that was why him and his friends had seats in differnt parts of the train. Then he took his air force id out and showed it to me, in the photo he was in his uniform and looked like a hard douchebag lol. I told him I wouldnt tell anyone and said thanks for telling me. Then he went on to say that he was having a great time and hoped I was having a good time too and said that we should stay in touch and I agreed completely. Then he said that he doesnt think he is ever going to marry, which took me by surprise cos that came out of nowhere. We started walking back towards and the train and because it was about to leave, we got back on it. We went back to our cabin, and joined everyone else. We all had dinner and sat around for a little bit doing the usual and having fun. I was being the usual me, saying things, making everyone laugh and just having fun by being the center of attention. It was weird cos this was our last night on the train. The next day we would all get to our destination. Everyone headed to bed and fell asleep.

The next morning we all freshened up. Then Aaron gave me his email address, and I gave him mine and he told me he would wait for my email. He smiled and said that he would only email me after I email him so I laughed. We all sat around waiting to get to that city. For everyone on that train to get to the destination, they would have to change trains at the next station and buy another ticket for a one hour journey to the destination city. We were all hoping that we would get seats in the business class section of the next train.

The station arrived and everyone got off. Aaron and his friends had to change trains too and as their destination was the same as ours, we all had to take the same trains. Him and his friends helped us with our luggage and got some concierge people to help too. This train had its own rules and we would have to get tickets on the train and just hope for the best. Aaron told me not worry about anything. The ticketmaster arrived and Aaron and his friends were talking to him, they got seats in the other compartment, then Aaron came and told me that the ticketmaster was gonna give us seats in the adjacent business class compartment and we had nothing to worry about. His "job" came with benefits and advantages and they were respected and hence were given priority and he used this advantage for my family and relatives too.

He went to his compartment with his buddies and I went to mine with my family. I wanted to nap for a lil before we got to our destination so was laying on the bunk bed. Everyone just sat around talking. I heard Aaron talking to my family so I turned around and just looked. He was asking my parents how they were doing and if everything was ok and told everyone that no one would bother us. He told everyone to let him know if we had any problems or needed anything. This whole time I dint say anything, I just looked on. Then he looked up at me, I was on the top bunk, and he smiled. He did not say a word. I did not say a word either. He just smiled and looked at me and I smiled and looked at him too. Then he left. I saw my sister looking at me, so I looked at her, she had this half smile/ half jaw drop look on her face, I smiled at her and said "what", then turned around and went to sleep. I guess she could see what I could see. Her look said "I think that guy is in love with you" or loosely put "I think that guy likes you".

My sister has said a few times over the years that I have mom's attraction power. I guess she has kept an eye on me all these years. I remember she would always have lots to say about my girlfriends and dint like most of them.

Our destination arrived and we all got off the train. We got cabs to get to the hotel. Once again, Aaron and his friends helped us with our luggages. It was time to say our goodbyes. I said bye to all of Aaron's friends then I said bye to him. Aaron dint say a lot. My family and relatives said bye to Aaron and his friends too. Then we started walking away. Then my mom just says "I think Aaron was about to cry when he said bye to you Jake so he put his shades on to hide his tears". Like I said, my whole family kept saying that me and Aaron had become good friends. I dont know if he was crying or not, cos I could not tell. I just kept walking away and when I turned around, Aaron and his friends were walking away, I waved at Aaron and he waved back. I dont know if Aaron was straight or gay, I dont know if Aaron had fallen in love or not, I dont know if Aaron liked me or not, I dont know if Aaron had feelings for me or not and I dont know why Aaron told me he does not think he will ever marry. But what I know is that I did not have feelings for Aaron, but I did flirt back, I was not attracted to him but I did find his manliness attractive, and it was kinda sad to say bye.

After a few days at the city, we decided to go back to the previous country on the same train. It would take us a few days and few nights to get back again. I hoped it would be as much fun as the last time on the train. But it wasnt. It wasnt the same at all. We met a lot of people. But it wasnt the same.

I never emailed Aaron. Even when I got back home, I did not email him. I dont know why. I just dint. I never got an email from him either.

Wednesday, January 12, 2011

Dude's Latest: A-List: New York, Jersey Shore, Facebook, Horny Jake

Man theres some stuff out there, some cringeworthy, some noteworhty and some just pretty cool. The first thing I have been wanting to write about is the TV show on LOGO channel, The A-List: New York. I had a lot of respect for the dude Reichen Lehmkuhl. Keyword "had", not as much anymore. I mean to me, he was always this cool guy, an Air Force guy, manly, stood up for himself and a MAN. I stumbled upon the show and watched for the first time, Reichen was dramatic about everything and had little consideration for his relationship with this new dude named Rodiney. Rolled his eyes like an insecure annoying chick and loved being fickle. Dude Reichen you have definitely lost out on a fan. (Reichen rolls his eyes). lol. I still have respect for what you are doing for LGBTQ community, but thats all. Ya I have nothing to say about the other cast members, all with "holier than thou" and "more A-List than thou" attitudes, and they make the word "QUEEN" sound masculine. Enough on them, I will give them kudos for being so ridiculous that my attention was held for a bit as I had never seen anything like it. All they care about is fame and for no apparent reason - FAME WHORES.

Also finally watched Jersey Shore cos people wont stop talking about it. And I gotta say the only I find hot is Ronnie. I like who he is and seems more real than Mike is and seems to take care of the people around him. He is also masculine and has hairy legs. Love it. Whereas for Mike, the dude needs to calm down and he is not my type at all. And Mike, the 90's gay scene called, they want the hairstyle back cos you are ruining their image.

So a few years ago, I had some of those sexually weak moments and during those days I would browse facebook a lot and look at guys photos. I would add the randomest guys on my facebook (deleted them now though). One of them was this model dude, and I added him. Instead of confirming my request, he emailed me back saying something like hey whos this and whats up and that kinda stuff. My profile pic was just of me. I did not reply to him cos I dint know what to say to him. A week later, he wrote to me again and asked me the same thing like yo who is this bro and stuff like that. The dude was persistent. So I just replied saying a friend of mine had hacked into my profile and had added 100s of people as a joke. So I told him I was sorry and did not mean to add him. He replied to me saying that it was not the first time a guy had added him by mistake or had that answer. I mean I did add him cos I liked him and I thought he might be gay or something. But I had no idea why he was so persistent. I mean normally when someone I dont know adds me I either ignore it or I might ask who they are but only once. I dont know maybe the dude liked me. Maybe he wanted to date me. I kind of liked him too. The pic above this paragraph of the model laying on the floor and water with the speedo on is of him.

So I have been very horny for the past few weeks. I have been jerking off every single day and often a few times a day. And even after I rub one out, I still walk around with a hard on. There will be days when I will be hanging out with friends or just partying and the whole day I will have a huge boner and sometimes I wont be able to walk or will just shiver. I am so friggin horny. I have found some great porn online but still on the lookout for more great ones.

So dudes come on I need more responses on the manscaping post. Come on boys give some advice.

Wednesday, January 5, 2011


I was recently asked by a reader a few questions regarding sex and related stuff. He mentioned that he is a bottom and unsure about manscaping and what tops seem to prefer or like. His question was as follows:

"I am pretty smooth, hairless chest and back. My legs are hairy and my crotch is well kept and my ass is hairless on cheeks but crack itself is very hairy. The area around my hole is very hairy. I dont like waxing so I have never gotten rid of it although I shave my crotch. So what should I do, do tops prefer hairy assholes or waxed assholes? I am a fratboy so am not concerned with the hair. But what do tops prefer, hairless assholes or hairy assholes? I just dont want to wax it. So I just want to know if tops would prefer a hairy ass. If not, then would hairy asses still be ok."

I did not know what to say to the dude cos my sex life with guys, as you all know, is not that happening at the moment. And I would never wax myself at all. I am a man and I like the hair on my body. I will never wax my hairy legs. And I like my hairy ass.

Sidenote: Boys when you make a donation, make sure you notify me so I can thank you. I have received two donations through the donate button but I dont know who to thank because I dont who to email. If you are reading then thank you. I am very grateful.

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Sunday, January 2, 2011

Where do I stand?

Bro, I have put up the donate button. The reason as to why the donate button is on the blog now has been explained here (please click on the link). When you donate to the blog, the payment is listed on your statement as "dude'sblog", this way you can be discrete about it if you want to. If you dont want to be discrete about it then thats fine too. Thanks for the support man.

Now for today's post. A dilemma is where I am at. Not a certain junction or a fork
in the road but a DILEMMA. I find myself looking at a world where I dont fit in and a world I dont identify with. Where do I go from here? Who do I look to for guidance?

I am currently at a big city. No, its not Miami or NY. And it was at this big city, that I found myself at a gay bar. After spending some time at the gay bar and talking to a few people, I went home empty-handed and alone. Yup, slept alone. And this is the dilemma, I find myself in. I dont identify myself with that world. I dont feel at home at a gay bar. I didnt at all. I wasnt attracted to those guys in that gay bar. I looked around, just felt lost and did not connect.

So I guess Im stuck between two worlds now. A rigid straight world and a the flamboyant gay world. I dont identify with either. I am a guy who does not identify with the gay world whose cliches I don't relate to and a straight world I dont belong to. So where should I go to meet a possible date, get a boyfriend or a husband. Heck, where do I go to just have a good time knowing that the other guys there will be gay too, and maybe we will dance, or talk, kiss without having to constantly think about being a flagbearer or being a cliche.

I have the utmost respect for the guys at the gay bar and I have no rights to judge them. I am not judging them. But I dont identify with them. I dont identify with that world.

A lot of my friends say about me "people fall in love with you when they see you or when they get to know you" and I have challenged this fact but they are adamant. A lot of the guys and girls I know say, "so many people have a crush on you or are in love with you and want to be with you" and "girls and guys both, a lot of girls and a LOT of guys, straight or gay, even if they claim to be straight as soon as u are in front of them, they fall in love with you or suddenly become gay just for you". Flattering compliments, you would say right? I must already be in a great relationship right? Then why is it that I am still SINGLE. Why is that I sitll find myself going to bed alone?

I am tired of the guessing game in college. A few of my friends have started keeping a tally of the number of girls and guys. I know the girls that are supposedly in love with me cos they are very expressive about their feelings or their crush and they let me know very well how they feel. I know the guys too cos they are very expressive about their feelings too. And then there are the guys who want to simply be best friends or a bromance, and they are very expressive too cos sometimes at one party I will get four or five guys shouting out "I love you man" or "I love you so much man, I look upto you bro, I have respect for you bro". So ya I know how to differentiate between the ones that have a crush, are in love and the ones that simply want a bromance.

The reason I am so mad at this whole guessing game at college is cos many of these guys are too scared to make the first move. They have all the strength and are fearless to stare at me for a long time but speechless and scared when it comes to saying something to me, telling me how they feel for me, asking me out, telling me they have feelings for me or telling me they want to be with me. They wont make the first move. I know I could make the first move too, but Im not the one who keeps staring. And I know they are staring cos my peripheral vision is awesome haha and most of them are not very subtle. And I never make the first move, cos I am old fashioned haha. Maybe I am too scared or maybe I am too old fashioned, I dont know. All I am saying is if u are fearless enough to stare for so long then make the first move too. I want to be with a MAN. So be a man.

I hear it always from my friends and the people around me, but little do they know that their so called "catch" and "total package" is very much alone and is very lonely. There are always people around me and you will always find me in huge groups of guys and girls and apparently everywhere I go I always take or am with a huge crowd. Yes in that way I am not alone. But in other ways, I am alone and very lonely. You all know very well which "way" I am talking about.

So once again the same question "where do I go to meet a possible date? Heck, where do I go to just have a good time knowing that the other guys there will be gay too and the only guessing game there will be does he like me or not, maybe we will dance, talk, kiss without having to think about being a flagbearer or being a cliche?". I will be in Washington DC for a few days then NY for a few months. So maybe someone out there knows of some place.

Your Bro,
Jake Walsor
A Popular Dude's Secret Life